In those early days of motherhood, the hours blend into each other—feeding, soothing, burping, napping (if you’re lucky), and doing it all again. It's beautiful. It's raw. It's completely consuming. And in the middle of it all, there’s you—a new mum who also needs care, rest, and comfort. Let’s be real: self-care for new moms isn’t about spa days and scented candles (although we’ll take those too). It’s about creating little moments that support your mental, emotional, and physical well-being—moments that help you feel like yourself again.
In this guide, we’ll walk through what self care really means for mums with newborns, what to plan for, what to look out for when you’re running on empty, and what to keep close in your self-care survival kit.
What Is Self-Care for New Moms?
Forget the Instagram version of self-care. For a new mum, self-care can mean:
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A solo shower without rushing
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Eating a hot meal while sitting down
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Asking someone to hold the baby so you can nap
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Crying when you need to—and not apologising for it
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Take five deep breaths before the next feed
It's about giving yourself permission to prioritise your wellbeing, without guilt.
According to Healthdirect Australia, caring for yourself post-birth helps support your emotional balance, speeds physical recovery, and protects against burnout or postnatal mental health conditions.
What to Plan Ahead of Time
Planning ahead can make self-care feel more accessible once the baby arrives. You don’t need a formal routine—just some flexible tools and support systems to lean on.
1. Build a “Support Crew”
Identify a few people you can call on for emotional or practical support. Whether it’s your partner, parent, sister or bestie, let them know in advance that you’ll need:
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Help with cooking, cleaning, or errands
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A safe space to vent
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Someone to hold the baby while you rest or shower
2. Set Boundaries Around Visitors
You don’t owe anyone access to your baby or your home in the early days. Decide now who you’ll allow over, when, and for how long. Let your partner help enforce boundaries so you’re not carrying it all.
3. Create Your Comfort Nook
Set up a small space just for you: your feeding chair, bed corner, or couch spot. Stock it with:
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A cosy throw blanket
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A big water bottle
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Snacks you love
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Phone charger
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Magnesium Body Cream to soothe tired muscles and support sleep
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A journal or notepad for your thoughts
What to Look Out For
Even with a strong support network and thoughtful planning, there will be moments when it all feels like too much. Here’s what to watch for:
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Exhaustion that feels unshakeable (beyond regular sleep deprivation)
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Crying more days than not
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Feeling disconnected from yourself or your baby
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Irritability, guilt, or restlessness
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Neglecting your basic needs like eating, drinking water or bathing
These may be signs that you need more support—or a reminder that you are just as important as your baby.
If you feel this way consistently, know that support is available. The Centre of Perinatal Excellence (COPE) and PANDA offers free, confidential mental health tools and check-ins tailored to new mums.
Daily Self-Care Ideas That Actually Work
Here are simple, realistic ways to care for yourself during the fourth trimester:
1. Prioritise One Nourishing Meal
Forget perfect nutrition—just aim for one wholesome meal per day. Smoothies, soups, and one-pan meals are lifesavers. If cooking’s too much, ask a loved one to meal prep or try a postpartum meal delivery service.
2. Move, Stretch or Step Outside
Even 5 minutes in the sun can reset your nervous system. Light stretching, a walk around the block, or stepping into the backyard with a cuppa can bring a huge mental shift.
3. Treat Your Body With A Relaxing Magnesium Cream
Use gentle products like Sleepybelly’s Magnesium Body Cream to relieve tension, especially in your shoulders, neck, or calves. It’s pregnancy and breastfeeding-safe and can help settle your nervous system at bedtime.
4. Breathe and Be Still
Practice simple breathing exercises. Try this one:
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Inhale for 4 counts
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Hold for 4
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Exhale for 4
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Hold for 4
Do this cycle 3–5 times and notice how your body softens.
5. Reconnect With Yourself
Write a single sentence in a journal: How am I feeling right now? Don’t edit. Just write. Let the words create space for your truth.
What to Pack in Your Postpartum Self-Care Kit
Whether you’re heading to the hospital or already home with the baby, these self-care staples will serve you well:
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Magnesium Body Cream – For tension, cramping, or calming bedtime rituals
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Soft pyjamas – Try our breathable Three-Piece Maternity Pyjamas for 24/7 comfort
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Comfort snacks – Keep almonds, bliss balls, or granola bars close
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Water bottle with straw – Because you’ll forget to drink otherwise
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Reassuring affirmations – Write 2–3 on sticky notes like:
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“I’m allowed to rest.”
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“This phase is temporary.”
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“I am doing my best, and that is enough.”
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Noise-cancelling earbuds or eye mask – To find peace even in a chaotic house
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A gentle moisturiser – Pregnancy can dry your skin, so opt for something nourishing and fragrance-free
Self Care Is Not Selfish—It’s Survival
One of the biggest myths around self-care for new moms is that it’s indulgent. It’s not. It’s essential. Your baby doesn’t need a perfect, always-smiling version of you. They need a mum who is well enough—who knows when to pause, ask for help, or simply breathe.
So, claim those five minutes in the bathroom. Text that friend. Eat the last biscuit. Choose rest over laundry because your well-being matters just as much as your baby’s.
Final Thoughts
Self care for new moms isn’t about changing who you are—it’s about remembering you still matter, even when your world now revolves around someone else. These small acts—stretching, journaling, eating well, resting, setting boundaries—are your way of saying: I’m here, too.
So be soft with yourself, honour your limits, and let care flow to you, not just from you.
Want more practical support for postpartum rest and recovery?
Browse the Sleepybelly blog or explore our range of maternity products made with care and comfort in mind.
